What You Must Know about Fish Tanks and Church Fights

Jesus fed the five thousand with some loaves and a couple of small fish. Obviously I’m not Jesus, and I was ready to flush some small fish. Here’s how things went down: For Christmas, we purchased a simple, soothing 10-gallon fish tank for my son Jon. Nothing fancy, but from the packed tank they were in at the pet store, ours seemed palatial. Jon picked his five favorites, added cool rocks, shells, and aquarium décor—Sponge Bob included.

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When done, it looked like Disneyland for fish . . . the happiest place . . . in a tank.

What’s the Problem?  

You may not be a fish person, but for a moment, just think about fish life. They’ve got it made! They don’t have to cook, clean, or share; they don’t gain weight, work, take vitamins, drive the speed limit, or pay taxes. Be that as it may, all was not well from day one; two weeks and four funerals later, I was flummoxed. Quite possibly it was operator error, so I checked the water balance, bought another temperature gauge (it’s not a heated tank but just in case), changed filters, and eventually was on a first name basis with the fish store managers. In my most desperate moment, I snuck into my son’s room when he was sleeping, hid under some pillows on the floor, and watched the madness in action.

It wasn’t the tank, it was the fish. Those mean little suckers bullied one another when they thought no one was looking. Well, doesn’t that just beat all, I thought. I’ll show those little brats who is boss and drain the tank and make them suffer and . . . and . . . and what? Be a bigger bully to five brainless fish? Seriously!

Not “What” but . . .

When conflict sends ripples of irritation into our lives—whether it’s politics, pain, problems, or people we can’t fix, to name a few—there’s something going on beneath the surface. The reality is that most surface or external arguments aren’t our real problems; they are just symptoms. The real problem, most often, is connected to something within us—a soul issue that will hurt us and others if we don’t deal with it wisely. With our fish tank, I thought the problem was the tank itself, and I went to battle trying to fix what wasn’t broken.

Under Water

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The fish were the real problem; they were killing each other trying to establish who was number one in the pecking order. How often is the Christian community like our 10-gallon fish tank? In spite of the fact that God provides for us and profoundly loves us, our instinct is to pursue pleasure, power, and primacy. In fact, not long after God created the world—including the fish in the sea—trouble set in. Human conflict is one of Scripture’s core themes. From sibling rivalry to slavery . . . kings and coups to palace power and feudal fighting . . . creation to the cross to today’s warring culture, conflicts are deeply rooted in our sinful, selfish souls. Here are a few of the countless passages we must remember:

Matthew 15:19: “For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders.”

Mark 7:21–23: “For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed the evil thoughts, fornications, thefts, murders, adulteries, deeds of coveting and wickedness, as well as deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride and foolishness. All these evil things proceed from within and defile the man.”

Romans 7:23: I see another law in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin which is in my members.

James 4:1–2: What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members? You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel.

Matthew Henry’s commentary on Mark 7 sums things up so well.

As a corrupt fountain sends forth corrupt streams, so does a corrupt heart send forth corrupt reasonings, corrupt appetites and passions, and all the wicked words and actions that come from them. A spiritual understanding of the law of God, and a sense of the evil of sin, will cause a man to seek for the grace of the Holy Spirit, to keep down the evil thoughts and affections that work within. (Mark 7-16)

Let Me Hear from You

Friends and fellow Christians, it’s time to reframe church conflicts, to examine ourselves and own the messes we make. Grave damage is inflicted on others when we point fingers, judge, blame, assume, accuse, and power punch. Let’s remember: the fish tank wasn’t the problem; the fish in the tank were—and are—the problem. As a global church body, we are called to be of one mind and one spirit, to live in harmony and unity with one another. Church buildings are not the problem; people in the church are the root of most problems. Let’s start with the root cause of conflicts from here on out.

It will be nice when my son’s fish finally decide to get along; they have so much to enjoy in their little 10-gallon world. In our world, there’s so much to enjoy . . . what one thing can you do to bring unity to your home and church family? Let’s talk about how to make that happen this next week.

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  • Scotty Sullivan

    Excellent message today! It’s not only our surroundings, it’s our hearts…..constantly in need of cleaning, refreshing and restoring….love the visual of hiding under the pillows in Jon’s room….I can see you doing that!! blessings…

    • Scotty,
      THOSE DARN FISH….they are going to be the end of me! SMILE!!!
      It’s amazing how one 10 gallon tank puts the OCEAN and God’s sovereign design into perspective. If a little tank throws me for a loop, I’ve got to have Christ every moment, every day for sure! (and my husband who knows how to fix these tanks!) Great to hear from you! I smile each time we connect! Colleen

      • Scotty Sullivan

        Hope all is well with the family! Looking forward to hearing about Jon’s tuxedo event, your mom’s progress. Hope she is getting stronger everyday, and that you too are feeling better. As always a big hug and lots of love for your dad…..boy would I love to go to Israel and listen to that man speak from where it was written…..I think I will order those DVD’s on the website….sending our best as always and with windows rolled down….

  • Madeline

    Hi Colleen, your “fish story” is very funny–I love a good laugh.The lesson is so true and thank you for the reminder and for putting things into perspective. Before I read this, I was struggling and praying about some situations in my life involving hurtful words and attitudes sent my way recently. Reading this post confirmed the message God was telling me. I have decided to let God deal with it. I am not going to let the offensive words distract me and throw me off course.God showed me how some of it actually, strangely enough, works out for my good even though the intent of the situation was not directed at me for good. I hope the fish are doing well!

  • Jolene Philo

    Our hearts. They need, not reframing, but regenerating. Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ who is makes who he created us to be. Thanks for adding this post to DifferentDream.com’s Tuesday special needs link share. I miss you, friend!

  • Jolene,
    It’s so good to connect with you! You are right on, we need new ones….new souls that are coming when we get to eternity. I can’t wait and I know you can’t either….until then, we’ll pull together and hang on. Great to connect with you, Colleen

  • Scotty,
    Prayers continue…mom and dad are in Israel right now and she is hanging in there. Since my mom, sister, and I all had the same surgery, we encourage one another…hoping that someday we will feel a little more normal. There are good days and rough days; and it makes us all so thankful to live in a time when these procedures could be done. Jon looked smashing in his tux; I need to post a photo. He’s started a new program that is having an event in April so he’s Mr. “Chic Magnet” in his finest. He’s waiting for his puppy to come home…he purchased his very own little cutie pie dog and we can’t wait to have her here. We’re all doing pretty well; wishing you the very same!!!! Blessings, Colleen

  • My dear Madeline,
    What an incredible message! Isn’t it amazing how sometimes the Lord puts just what we need right in front of us and uses it to help us through a tough spot. How have things gone since you wrote? I’m sorry I didn’t get to you sooner, I’ve had a bout with pneumonia so I’m playing catch up. I pray you have found healing and hope in spite of what was said against you…I also pray the Lord protects your heart and reminds you that you are loved, cherished, and have immeasurable value to Him and to us! May you have a wonderful Easter! Colleen