Healing and Hope for Victims of Violence

An Interview with Chris Keith

Stalking, rape, harassment, trauma, murder . . . these words represent the enormous reality that domestic violence has become a global epidemic. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence defines domestic violence as . . .

Chris Keith

Willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another.

The frequency and severity of domestic violence varies dramatically; for those with disabilities, the numbers skyrocket.

Very few people can speak on this subject like Chris Keith. As a child, Chris was shot in the head by his father after his father had strangled his mother and shot his brother.

Miraculously, Chris survived and is actively involved in helping survivors recover from their past. The church must stop denying and refusing to believe victims; we must become part of the solution, not part of the problem.

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Interview Questions

 Today, Colleen talks with domestic violence survivor and speaker, Chris Keith.

  1. Tell us about that horrific day when your father tried to kill you.
  2. How did you survive a gunshot to the head?
  3. How did you try to make sense of all that had happened to you as a kid?
  4. As you were growing up, did you wish you had known the truth of your past?
  5. How did you finally learn the details of what your father had done?
  6. As a 12-year-old, how did you deal with the truth of what your father had done?
  7. How did God intervene to help you in the middle of your depression?
  8. What did it mean to finally have your story be known by your church family?
  9. With all that has happened to you, how can you trust that God is good?
  10. How does your story impact the people you speak to?
  11. How does your story impact your role as a father to your children?
  12. Why is your message of forgiveness so powerful for the people you speak to?
  13. What are the steps to forgiveness we need to take to experience healing?
  14. What can adults do to help young people experience God’s love and healing?
  15. What do you say to people who feel unloved or feel that no one knows them?

Let Me Hear from You

Domestic violence is the biggest kept secret in the church today. In fact, it’s almost impossible to find pastors who discuss this and step in to help. Most victims will say that when they sought help from their church, they were “re-victimized” through questioning, betrayal, blame, and being labeled as a liar.

The truth is that domestic abusers work in private; they . . .

  • Threaten
  • Dominate
  • Intimidate
  • Humiliate their victims behind closed doors

They want to look good; abusers are experts at manipulation and portraying innocence.

However, the damage and destruction they cause is tragic. If you have experienced abuse, please reach out to Insight for Living Ministries’ Reframing Ministries. We will listen, and we will believe you. We will help. Today is the day to make change happen.

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About Chris KeithChris Keith

At 5 years old, Chris’s world changed when his dad suffocated Chris’s mom with a pillow and then shot Chris and his brother in the head before ending his own life. Paramedics found the bodies and pronounced dead everyone on the scene. As they were leaving, one noticed Chris’s hand move. The scene went from a crime scene to an opportunity to save a young boy’s life. After an eight-hour surgery, Chris survived.

At age 14, after nearly nine years of feeling alone and unable to process the events of his horrific past, Chris’s life turned around at a church retreat. He realized that to “make it,” he needed the help of others. And he needed to rely fully on the unconditional love of his heavenly Father. Psalm 68:5 was key to Chris’s healing process: “[God] is a father to the fatherless.”

Today, God has provided Chris with an awesome wife and three amazing kids, along with the opportunity to have fostered nine kids. Chris sees his story as a testament of HOPE—the hope that comes only from God’s goodness, love, and mercy.

Resources

National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma and Mental Health

Focus Ministries: Faith Based Domestic Violence Help for Women and Families

Choose Courage Foundation

 

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2 thoughts on “Healing and Hope for Victims of Violence

  1. My childhood consisted of drugs, alcohol, mother running off with boyfriends, leaving a brother and me behind, after a baby sister died. Father alcoholic all my childhood, quitting at age 16. I guess looking back, there was no emotional attachment, survival was the key, sexually abused by an uncle, virginity taken away on a blind date, they were all things, I attached myself away from and just lived or survived. As long as noone knew, I could live, was my mental attitude. Met a boy, went to church, thought I was saved, but found the Lord to be intimate and real relationship, and I was on fire, a feeling I never knew existed or felt before. Thought my world was going to be great, married boy, who felt his calling was the ministry, and believed with all.my heart, I would be in a marriage that Loved God, impacted lives and raised children in a Christian home. Nothing I received but just knew I had the chance to do something different. 26 years of marriage, didnt tell people the anger, violence and alcohol later that had crept into my home. I was unwilling to believe it could be abusive or just like my childhood. I still stood by him and our marriage because I believed in God, my vows, and that my husband was a good christian man. I still have trouble and doubt myself because I held on to these three things for so long. December 26th, 2017 I came home to find out my husband took our son and met a woman and her son for a playdate. I was hurt and tried to talk to him about it, and besides him drinking, he could only say, now your interested when someone is pursuing me. It stung, and I asked him to leave. He didn’t just leave, but eventually moved out, I know his heart has not been for his marriage in a long time, and I know I distanced myself from it all, just wanting to keep my family together, I just tried to survive. I still love him and wish I could have a happy. Healthy marriage with the man I made vows to, and yet in his freedom now, even though we are still married, he is dating and causing me so much pain, I dont know it will ever be healed, repaired and restored. I am having a hard time trying to survive. I know my marriage has not been a good one. But maybe it was good enough for me, because it felt safe, I wasn’t abandoned, or something I cant figure out just yet. I dont want to be a victim I want to be a survivor and I dont want to live just surviving. I want to live to the fullest, loving my family, my children,and yet I feel most days I dont want to get out of bed. I want to live on Hope and Faith, yet realize it may not be the dream I have always dreamed of, and move on? I know he isn’t in a good place and he doesnt want this marriage anyway. I would be a fool to even try to ask him to come back. All my faith in the world wants me to believe he will love me and his kids enough to change and be true to God, himself and us. Even when there are no actions to prove this. And I feel lost and stuck.